You’re Not the Boss of Me: Discover Your Authentic Self

Have you ever wondered, Who am I? That’s the age-old question that Ms. Lightbody wants to help readers answer. In You’re Not The Boss of Me, she lists issues that often influence or control us. For example, our lives and actions are conditioned by those around us, relationships we’ve had as children with our family, our culture, and our religions. Not all of these influences are necessarily good or bad. She suggests we need to be aware of these control bosses and work through them to learn how they affect us and how we view ourselves. We cannot find our true nature if we are not speaking our own truth, and in order to do that, we need to know what is controlling us. By doing so, we will be more able to live a meaningful life based on the actual wants of our souls or true self.

This is an interesting book with quite a bit of good advice. It made me think a lot about my own life’s journey. And it made me wonder, am I the captain of my ship, so to speak, or am I giving others all the power? Or are my thought patterns simply outdated? The list of issues, emotions, and things that one needs to work through to help uncover one’s true personality is helpful. Although, I couldn’t help but wonder if some of the themes within the book could have been more thoroughly developed. For example, in Parts Four and Five, I expected the author to provide some more concrete tools and examples of how to delve deeper into our self-awareness. I did, however, appreciate her discussion and explanation of the Chakra system. this is something that I hadn’t fully understood until now. I also liked that she included enough examples about her own experience without taking away from the fact that she wanted the reader to think of their own life and experiences.

Some of her best advice seems to be that by finding your way home to your soul, you will be able to enjoy the journey of life without being too attached to the outcome. And, when your personality and your soul are aligned, you will be one with the universe. At the end of the book, Ms. Lightbody includes space for readers to work through some of the issues she raises throughout the book. Because as she points out, finding the things that control your life and emotions may take some time to work through.